Can people with autism lie?

I can’t lie.  That’s a lie.  I can lie.

My therapist asked me this last week because I am so honest about my answers to her questions.  But, I’m not thinking of it as being honest; I think of it as factual.  Honesty and being literal can be confused to the outside observer.

I have learned the hard way that blunt “truth” is not welcomed in social situations.  I have learned to keep quiet about most things.  But, I have learned that if someone has really nice shoes, I say so, and I’m not lying to be socially acceptable, I say it because they really are nice shoes.  I notice shoes because between my intermittent eye contact, I tend to look down or to the side.  I notice purses this way too.

“Your directness is so refreshing,” I have heard.  But, I suspect that is a lie.  I think it might be a person acting strong in a social situation to save face.  Where did the saying, “save face” come from?  I know it means embarrassed or similar.

I have learned that agreement in a social situation is preferred, but I consider that a lie if I disagree or they are incorrect.  I see people positing another point of view, but when I retort with the facts or additional information, I get a blank stare, and they tend to exclude me.  Or, I don’t know what to say because I am aware that people didn’t like what I said.

So, I lie by agreeing.  I lie by withholding additional information.  I lie by not correcting people.  I lie by omission.

Can I lie on purpose to get something I want?  Yes, but hubby and the kids will tell you that I suck at it.

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