Watching lips by people with autism

See what I'm saying?
See what I'm saying?

A Yale study is about me too! Especially when I’m in social situations or I’m trying to figure out what is going on in a conversation, I’ll “read lips” instead of looking people in the eye. That doesn’t mean I’m not listening; it means I’m trying really really hard to listen and understand. I tend to hear what people say literally instead of what body language, facial expressions, and figures of speech say.

From an article quoted on the Autism section of that quotes a Yale Study:

Individuals with autism spectrum disorders (ASD) tend to stare at people’s mouths rather than their eyes. Now, an NIH-funded study in 2-year-olds with the social deficit disorder suggests why they might find mouths so attractive: lip-sync—the exact match of lip motion and speech sound.

Read my lips.  I say read the full article…

Why is “read my lips” usually used as an insult?  I assume it means, “You are stupid because you are not understanding what I am saying or you are not doing what I want.”

Also, as I understand it, “Not look me in the eye.” means dishonest, hiding something, ignoring me, or don’t like you.  If that’s the case, I can understand why people would be edgy around me.  Yet, when I don’t look it’s because I am actively listening.

Know that I care to hear what you say.

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